I hate writing blog posts. I always struggle with things to say about the session, even if I have a lot to say; getting the words out is difficult. So to make these posts a little more robust and bring in other voices, I'm starting a Q&A with the moms.

They don't have to answer all of the questions and can answer as much or as little as they feel like, and I might change the questions from time to time, keeping each post as individualized as I can get it. 


I think it's only fair that I start things off with my own answers, so here we go!


1.  When you realized you were pregnant, what was your first reaction and how did you tell your significant other?

With my first, Colton, a bit nervous.  We were lucky to get pregnant right away, but I know Matt was a bit hopeful that it would take a while so I was a bit nervous to tell him.  I think I might have just left the stick out for him and told him to go look in the bathroom.  Ha!   With my second, Kinsey, it was more of a "Ok. Here we go again!" kind of feeling.


2. Did you have any unusual food cravings?

I don't recall having any really unusual cravings like pickles and ice cream, but with Colton I really wanted hamburger helper.  Like REALLY wanted it.  Matt wasn't prepared to go to the grocery store at 10 at night for my weird craving, so I went by myself, grabbed it and only that, and came home to make and eat the entire thing.  With my second, I craved Swedish Fish.   


3. What did you like/dislike about being pregnant?

With Colton, I was nervous as I think most first time moms are.  I had some scares throughout with him - spotting early on, lots of contractions, bedrest.   But beyond those, I loved it.  With Kinsey, I was nauseated and had the worst heartburn in my first and third trimesters, and the meds only helped a bit.  But even then I still remember the warmth and joy of feeling their tiny feet kicking, and Kinsey's almost constant hiccups.


4.Can you share your labor and delivery story with us?

Colton - my water broke at home and as soon as I realized I hadn't peed when trying to stand up, we called the doc.  With having been on bedrest and already faced so many occasions of regular/timed contractions, she had me go in right away.  12 hours of labor pains later, I was getting an epidural and then 27 hours total I ended up needing a c-section because I just wouldn't dilate enough.  About a week after being home, I was having a hard time breathing and talking, and we found out that my body hadn't pushed out all the fluids from being in the hospital and they were sitting on my lungs and causing my heart to enlarge.  I had an overnight in the hospital, hooked up to diaretics and was back home the next day feeling much better.

Kinsey - I went in for a planned c-section due to complications after I'd taken Colton home, and we didn't want to go through a scare again.   However this time, I seized on the table right after Kinsey was delivered, and the anesthesiologist pushed a paralytic and intubated me.  Basically, I just passed out but the way I did it could have indicated something worse and so they treat it like the worst case scenario just to be on the safe side.  From what I understand it's not a very common occurrence, but not unheard of.

For those of you reading this who might be pregnant, don't read too much into my experiences.  Everyone is different, even my own two deliveries!  Trust your healthcare providers, trust your own instincts.


5. Do you have any advice, tips, tricks, or something you wish you'd done differently during your pregnancy or L&D that you'd like to share?

I think it would have been a bit nicer not to have had people visiting at the hospital.  While it's nice to have the support, really I just wanted to rest and be with Matt and Colton, and later Kinsey.  It can be so much more exhausting when you feel like you have to host and entertain from your hospital bed.  My Family is from out of town too, so with both births I had house guests.  Again, it was nice to have the support, but I felt like I had to clean the house and entertain and with a new baby, I really didn't want to have those feelings or do those things.   I think when you are looking at who is going to be around you in those first few weeks, be selective and only invite those that can be totally independent and who don't need direction/instruction, so that you aren't taxed to take care of someone other than yourself and baby.  The best thing was having my mom/sister and Matt's parents help with Colton when Kinsey was born - it made him feel special and gave us time one-on-one to bond with Kinsey and rest.


6.How did you choose your child's name and what is one name that was close, but didn't make the cut?

Our kids middle names are family names so that was pretty easy for us, but coming up with their first names took multiple lists and each of us having veto power.  I think for Colton, the name that was closest was Cole and for Kinsey I really liked Olivia or Molly.  


7. What trait, physical or otherwise, do you wish your child has inherited from you?

My curly hair


8.What has been your favorite part of seeing your baby grow so far?

Seeing their individuality come out!   It's so interesting seeing how different they each are, what their interests are, how they handle themselves and similar situations.


9.If you were stranded with your kids, what are three things you'd hope you had on hand?

wet wipes, fruit snacks, coloring books


10. What kids show do you wish you could eliminate so that no parent would ever have to sit through it again?



11. Is there a food you think is really gross but you make your kids eat anyways because it's good for them?

I like pretty much everything, but their dad hates just about all veggies.  So this is more one that he'd answer, and it would probably be broccoli or cooked carrots.


12. If there was one mom duty you wish you never had to do again, what would it be?

laundry.   I thought about saying cleaning up pee and puke, etc, but seriously, laundry is THE WORST and it's never ending.


13. Tell us about one funny experience you've had with your new baby

When one of mine was really fresh, we had the pastor and his wife over.  The pastor's wife was snuggling the baby and I thought she spilled her coffee because I saw a drip of brown fall to the rug.  Yeah, no - she wasn't holding coffee.  My reaction upon realizing her coffee was on the table - NONONONONONONONONO.  *run run, grab baby, run to nursery*    I'm sure you've already figured out what it was   -   TOTAL BLOWOUT.  Probably the worst ever between both kids.  It was utterly mortifying, and totally gross but now looking back, so hilarious.  Still gross, but so funny.  By some miracle, she was totally clean.  I on the other hand needed a change and shower - as did baby.  (and no, I'm not saying which one it was)


14. What are you most looking forward to in the next year?

My big guy is starting Kindergarten and I couldn't be more excited for him - he's so ready for it!  And my littlest is starting preschool - that one I'm not so sure about looking forward to - I think it might be a struggle, but I am looking forward to having a little more me